Since December I have struggled to cope with a series of traumatic events. On Monday, shit hit the fan. I broke down and completely fell apart. In the days since, I worked on reframing the experience.
The first event that triggered the following more traumatic events left me feeling stuck. I could not comprehend the “what’s and why’s” of what happened to me. I needed to learn several lessons.
Reframing to Accept Chaos
Sometimes, in life’s journey, we face setbacks where we fall intensely focused on the wrong aspects of our experiences. We cannot control the chaos of the world only how we react to it. I felt I already understood this, but my unconscious mind did not yet fully accept it.
For a few months, I struggled to fully move past an action against me that I could not control. The choice of another impacted me physically, but in trying to make sense of it, I got sucked into mental chaos. I wondered how it could have gone differently when in reality I have no say in that matter.
Reframing to Let Go
To let go, I must forgive. In my case, a verbal meeting won’t work. Internally, I forgave everyone involved – including myself. At that moment, I reframed what happened on a deeper level. Now, I am grateful to be seeing things in a different light.
Ultimately, I realized when considering everything that happened, grieving is reasonable and necessary. With that acknowledgment, I instantly accepted what happened for what it was, and much of the pain immediately released from my body. During that moment, I truly let go.
Reframing to Move Forward
I remember feeling as if I was at rock bottom. Then it hit me that the time had come to go in the opposite direction. In that instant, I gained a greater focus and the knowledge that I needed to step up more. I needed to take full control.
At the same time, just like when climbing a ladder, I needed to make constant progress in achieving my goals, while not skipping ahead or dwelling on completed tasks. It does not matter if I could have done better; it matters that it is complete.
In reframing my mind, I began to accept that I have a lot of steps in front of me. I will make mistakes; I will overcome failures – the journey works that way. So, I realized that there is no sense in jumping ahead or forcibly trying to feel a different way.
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